Today Tammy Hischke, owner of barre3 Frisco, is sharing her thoughts on what it means to give generously. Read on and enjoy!
Giving generously. Over the years, this phrase has meant different things to me. It wasn’t until I opened my studio in Frisco, Texas that I learned that giving generously isn’t just about giving to others. It’s about giving to yourself too.
I’ve always gotten a lot of joy out of making other people happy. In college when my friends were struggling, I’d take them out to lunch. When I was teaching jazzercise and a woman told me that my encouraging smile was what motivated her to believe in herself and keep coming back to class each week, I knew I had found my calling as a teacher. Giving was my reason for being.
While I could give so easily to everyone else, I had a harder time giving to myself. I often felt guilty and selfish for doing something fun like taking a class, getting a pedicure, or reading a good book. While I understood rationally that I needed to rest and recharge, I couldn’t help feeling like I was wasting time and abandoning my other duties as a Mother, wife, friend, and studio owner.
I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. When life gets crazy, we fail to prioritize the things that revitalize and rejuvenate us. Exercise, eating well, and quality time with friends and family are typically the first things that fall to the wayside. We continue to give and give and give, and we don’t do the things that fuel us. As a result, we feel depleted, run down, and unhappy.
I think one of the best examples of giving generously to yourself is the barre3 tradition of celebrating 100 classes. When a client hits the 100 mark, we honor their achievement with flowers and a special announcement in class. My instructors then gift the client a special item from our retail. It’s a big deal because that’s 100 hours that you gave to yourself. What a generous gift for your mind and body.
One of the many things I love about barre3 is that it’s helped me to understand that giving generously to myself isn’t just ok, it’s a non-negotiable. My clients have played the biggest role in teaching me this valuable lesson. Every day, many of them walk into the studio frazzled and stressed-out. But the hour they spend in the studio transforms their mindset, posture, and mood. They walk out calm, confident, and more energized. Nothing brings me more joy than seeing their transformation, and it’s my daily reminder to make time for the things that inspire me.
A final thought on giving: While giving generously to yourself needs to be part of the equation, there’s a flipside to that coin. I believe it’s equally important to allow people to give generously to you. To ask for help. To delegate. It makes someone else feel good to know that they are giving to you and making your life easier. Such a win-win!